What does the future hold for us?

Isn't this always the dreaded question? Since we are toddlers, we all dream of a certain future. It's always a different scenario for each one of us.

It always seeks for what we lack. Or it at least seems like it.  We as humans always crave for more, always. Nothing we have is ever enough. The grass is always greener on the other side. 

As a kid, I've always been kind of a loner. It has been a tough task, making friends. The worst part was being an extrovert. I loved socializing. Like everyone in my family said, I took after my father. I was a people's person, or what you would call, a people pleaser (or even a kiss ass). I'd want to change myself according to how people wanted me to be. For instance, I had more guy friends, which involuntary made me a tomboy. Not that I hated it. It didn't exactly make me a popular person. I stuck out like a sore thumb. Not exactly your ideal girl. The girl with a boy-cut, zero dressing sense, and absolutely no personality of her own isn't exactly the perfect person. But, that's okay! The person back then isn't the person who I turned out to be in the present. That person, who I used to be, was learning, growing, and trying to be a better human, every day. And that is how it should be. I have grown in every aspect of life. Be it my career, my love life, my relationship with my family, my health, my physical appearance, or absolutely anything. I have wanted to be an Interior designer since I was 10. The only thing that helped me work towards that goal, was me.  I wanted to be a little healthier in appearance and also remain fit. The only thing that helped me work towards that goal, was me. I wanted to have a stable relationship and stop having toxic/unhealthy relationships and again the only thing that helped me work towards that goal was me.  I wanted to work on my relationship with my parents, that helped either of us understand each other in a better way, without conflicts, and again the only person who could work on it, was me who had to work with communication. For every aspect to improve "YOU" are the only person who can help you achieve any goal you want.  

The person you are today is a better version of who you want to be, or who you used to be. The future is scary. But the only affecting factor is always going to be you. Today, I'm a completely different person than I used to be. I had a difficult and extremely long road to reach the destination I wanted. I'm still not where I want to be, and as I stated earlier, I might always want more even if I have everything I ever need. It won't stop me from achieving the success and happiness we all want or most importantly, DESERVE! Irrespective of the other goals concerning my appearance, career, relationships with my partner(s), family; the ultimate goal has to be to grow as a person. The other factors just fall into place as they must. To be a better person every day we all need to work on ourselves to be a better person every day, little by little. 

Irrespective of what our personal goals are, the ultimate future goal has to be a better person at the end of it.

Written by,

Rtr. Ishaanee Arwindekar,

Rotaract Club of Thane East.