MASCULINE AND FEMININE

When hearing those two words you might immediately think of men and women. I wouldn’t blame you, many of us are told that men must be masculine and women must be feminine.

Now when searching the definition of masculine, all of definitions it is said the masculinity was traditionally associated with men and also meant with men or male gender. When searching up the word feminine it comes up with similar results. Now like the definition of masculine, these definitions went straight to associating it with women. I want to talk about why masculinity & femininity are not the same things as gender and why they are two completely different things . 

Let’s start with some TRAITS that are considered MASCULINE ~ 

1. DOMINANT 

2. INDEPENDENT 

3. STRONG 

4. ASSERTIVE 

5. BRAVE 

NOW for some TRAITS considered FEMININE ~ 

1. EMOTIONAL 

2. CARING 

3. HUMBLE 

4. NURTURING 

5 . COLLABORATIVE 

When looking at both these traits I don’t see gender. Traditionally feminine traits are considered bad or unwanted, I believe that is why women and men have taken to more masculine traits. In the workplace, I found it better to be dominant, assertive and strong that it is so be caring, humble and emotional. Now why is this ? Why have we taken these traits & immediately started labelling them ? All of the feminine traits are associated with men . If a women is seen being dominant or assertive she is BOSSY, But if a man is dominant or assertive he’s a boss and is taking control. We can say the same thing about man and who is seen crying , he can be considered weak, but If woman is emotional or caring it is considered good or the way she is supposed to act. 

It is time that society realizes that masculinity & femininity are not traits we associate with depending on gender, But instead depending on the character to be balanced and better people, I believe we need to have both masculine traits & feminine traits 

Written by-:

Nikki Dhirwani